Richard Alalouf is uniquely out in one particular way. He’s a co-parent with his husband, Tom Mulroy, of a 3-and-a-half-year-old boy. “That gets you visibility,” Alalouf said. “There are the doctors, the day care people, the grocery store staff who see you buying diapers,and soon the schools, and you just have to let them know who you are and what your child’s family looks like.”