As lesbian, gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans* people, many of us grow up alienated from our biological families. In the bad old days before PFLAG, many of us hid our sexual orientation or gender identity from our parents or grandparents, siblings, uncles, aunts or cousins. Often, if our relatives knew, we were rejected by them for being who we are. Since marriage equality is a recent phenomenon, most of us lived our lives without the benefits that were given to legally-sanctioned, opposite-gender spouses. Instead, we in the LGBT community created new forms of relationships that did for us what biological families, heterosexual marriages, or parenting did for others. We call those relationships families of choice, as opposed to the biological families we grew up with that were foisted upon us at birth. LGBT authors and activists have written extensively about this topic, most notably Kath Weston in her still-relevant book Families We Choose (1991).