Mombian

  • Column: 2015 - A Year of Progress, with More to Do

    What a year. It’s tempting, in a year-end wrap-up, to put a big bow on what we put a ring on and call it a day. While marriage brought us many advances, however, it also highlighted other issues that we still need to tackle in order to bring full equality and inclusion to LGBTQ parents and our children.

  • Column: Denying LGBT Identities in Death

    My mother was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer, and so end-of-life issues are much on my mind. When she passes—a straight, cisgender woman—she will be buried next to my father under a common gravestone, with the name she prefers. Our family will honor both her individual identity and the life she and my father created together. Not all LGBT people can expect the same, however, as several recent incidents have reminded us.

  • Column: Equity in the Doctor’s Office

    A news story has been circulating about a Michigan pediatrician who, “after much prayer,” refused to care for a newborn because the baby had two moms. It’s a story of personal discrimination and ignorance — but also indicates systemic problems.

  • Column: LGB Families: What We Know and What We Don’t

    A recent report from UCLA’s Williams Institute on the state of research about LGB families not only reiterates that our children are doing as well as anyone else’s, but also offers some lesser-known insights about the composition and strengths of our families—and gives thoughtful suggestions for the direction of future research.

  • Column: LGBTQ Parent Politicians

    2016 is a presidential election year, so let’s get in the mood for politics by catching up with some elected officials who are also LGBTQ parents.

  • Column: LGBTQ Parents and Our Children in 2014

    Did 2014 bring LGBTQ parents and our children closer to equality? Most visibly, it was the year that marriage equality spread to most of the U.S.—a great thing for many families, but certainly not all that happened.

  • Column: LGBTQ Parents Creating Change

    I spent last week at the National LGBTQ Task Force’s Creating Change conference in Chicago, joining 4,000 activists from across the spectrum, of all ages, colors, and backgrounds, to learn, network, and plan for the future. Here’s a look at some of the family-related highlights I observed.

  • Column: Marriage And Parental Rights - There’s A Difference And It’s Complicated

    Marriage equality has dominated the LGBT news headlines for the past few weeks, but marriage shouldn't be the only right we think about when it comes to protecting our families. Different-sex parents are not required to marry in order for both to be recognized as legal parents. It should be the same for same-sex couples. Several judges and lawyers have shown recently, however, that they may not understand that.

  • Column: Mombian - Proud to be Proud

    It’s Pride Month once again, which means that I am once again inspired to take stock of what I’m proud of this year. As always, my son tops the list. He’s finishing elementary school this month, which seems incredible, not because I ever doubted he’d do it, but because it seems just yesterday that I was taking him to kindergarten. He’s developing his own interests and talents and is almost as tall as I am now (not that that really takes much; any height he has comes from his donor).

  • Column: New Project Shares Stories of Those Who Lost Parents to AIDS

    A new project by two daughters of gay dads aims to reveal a part of history that has rarely been told before: the stories of people like themselves who lost parents to AIDS.

  • Column: Obama’s Legacy for LGBTQ Families

    As President Barack Obama ends eight years in office, let’s reflect on what he and his administration have done to advance understanding of and equality for LGBTQ parents and our children.

  • Family Feud? Obama Caught Between Clinton, Biden Ambitions

    President Barack Obama is the man in the middle, caught between the White House aspirations of two of his closest advisers: Vice President Joe Biden and former Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton.

  • LGBT Families: Preparing for the Year Ahead

    My family parties from Thanksgiving through New Year’s. I’m Jewish, my spouse is Protestant (though neither of us is particularly observant), and my family of origin has always celebrated Thanksgiving as our biggest family gathering, which means we start with turkey and pies at the end of November and don’t stop making merry until we raise our champagne glasses on January 1. This year, the first night of Hanukkah was also Christmas Eve, creating a combined celebration the likes of which we hadn’t seen since the great Thanksgivukkah conjunction of 2013.

  • Mombian: A Time to Be Thankful

    Thanksgiving is here, and I’m thinking about what we as an LGBTQ community have to be thankful for lately. Recent news has been rather sobering.

  • Mombian: A To-Do for LGBT Parents and Allies in 2014 - Marriage Alone Isn’t Enough

    The year 2013 saw tremendous progress in marriage equality, which is a wonderful thing — but it also comes with the risk that we think our gains in marriage are sufficient to protect ourselves and our families. Here, then, are four things for LGBT parents and our allies to focus on as we advocate for our families in 2014.

  • Mombian: Advertising to LGBT Families Is a Sweet Deal

    One of the secret parenting tricks my spouse and I used to teach our son to like camping was to ensure that we had s’mores — those gooey confections of toasted marshmallow and chocolate sandwiched between graham crackers — by the campfire every night.

  • Mombian: How the Makers of D&D Won My Family’s Heart

    I played the original Dungeons & Dragons game in high school, back in the early 80s. I’ve been delighted to see it is experiencing a resurgence — and capturing my son's interest as well. A recent encounter made me love the game, and the company behind it, even more.

  • Mombian: Lessons From Star Wars on Parenting and Life

    I was among the first generation of kids to see the original “Star Wars” movie in 1977. I was 10 then, and when the third installment rolled around six years later, I was waiting in line for hours with friends at the local theater on opening day. I’ll be seeing “The Force Awakens” with my own son this week, and have been reflecting on some of the lessons I’ve learned from the series and what it has meant to me.

  • Mombian: LGBTQ Families, Past, Present, and Future

    I love LGBTQ History Month almost more than I love Pride Month. Going to grad school in history will do that. Keeping in mind the truism “History is written by the victors” and philosopher George Santayana’s observation, “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it,” I find there’s something about looking at our queer past that feels empowering and vital.

  • Mombian: Making Museums Welcoming to All Families

    May was National Museum Month, and LGBTQ families have a growing source of support in museums—including ones aimed at children—that have been reaching out to welcome all kinds of families. Margaret Middleton, a Boston-based designer, speaker, and consultant, has been a leader in helping to make this happen.