Are Gay Men Sex Addicts?
That’s the question a Love Addict asks after giving love, attention, understanding and tolerating a lack of affection and sex? The Love Avoidant, the frustrated partner, wonders what it takes to fill the emotional void of the man or woman sharing his or her life.
The problem is intensified when we repeat patterns; that is, we pick the same partner, different face, different name — same frustrations.
Expectations, a four-letter word. The Love Addict expects intimacy and sex; after all, the man or woman chosen is the hottest thing going. The Love Avoidant sends messages that he or she will fill your wildest sexual and emotional fantasies. And perhaps during the first or second encounter, it really, truly happens.
“Why me?” the Love Addict asks. “I give and give, emotionally and financially. I’m thoughtful and kind. What does it take to get the man/woman in my life to love me back?”
“I’m overwhelmed by his/her neediness,” the Love Avoidant states.
Two men, two women who thought they were meant for each other, but cannot make it work.
If you identify with these issues, join me at our bimonthly SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous) at SunServe on Wilton Manors Drive, second and fourth Tuesday of every month. 7 – 8:30 PM.
If you think Sex=Love, join us. If you cannot convert a one-night stand into a long-term relationship, come and share, or just listen.